Marriage/Relationship Compatibility Test INTJ!

The personality type information discovered from the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) can be used, in a manner of speaking as a wonderful compatibility test of sorts.

The Myers-Briggs instrument itself is NOT a compatibility test. It is a personality preference indicator.

The information gleaned from knowledge of your personality type can be used to identify and actually create better love and relationship compatibility so I have used the term "compatibility test" to refer to using the "type" information in this fashion.

Compatibility is critical to relationship success as each of the 16 personality types will bring instinctively preferred behaviors, personality traits, to a marriage and/or family relationship.

If you know ahead of time what those preferred personality traits are you have the knowledge necessary to make a marriage last and flourish; actually, you have the type knowledge to make any relationship grow.

Here is the INTJ way. You will see the many and varied personality traits that INTJs naturally show as they relate to others. If you are an INTJ let this self-knowledge help and guide you in your marriage and family life. If you are in relationship with an INTJ allow the wonder of what you learn here to guide your understanding of and responses to how INTJs behave.

If you’re not sure of your MBTI type take the Myers Briggs test here. Then come back and go to the type page for your type and learn.

Myers-Briggs “Compatibility Test” Results-INTJ Personality Traits

• The INTJ can be wonderful mates, loyal, non-complaining, honest
• The INTJ does not consider social activities a good way to spend time
• The INTJ can be a very “serious” sort of person in relationships
• INTJs are looking for relationships with deep meaning and one worthy of their time
• The INTJ will tend to “drive”, “push” their mate and kids as hard as they do themselves
• INTJ will be quietly persistent and very stubborn
• Highly value independence in their relationships…will respect others needing independence also
• INTJ can be a skilled and proficient lover
• INTJs are very “devoted” to their family
• INTJ can be very sensitive to rejection…not much may come thru however
• INTJ can be perfectionists in all they do
• May maintain a grudge if they feel they are being dealt with unfairly
• INTJs can be difficult to satisfy in relationships
• Will make quick decisions and INTJs normally love a challenge

On the Personality & Marriage section of this site the statement was made that all relationships will encounter conflict. It is part of being human. How we experience conflict, react to it and move to solve it are instinctive. So we have some power and control and will INSTINCTIVELY and NATURALLY use our personality traits in a conflict resolution activity, at least some of the time. The following personality traits are keys to understanding the INTJ approach to conflict in relationships/marriage.

INTJ Conflict Resolution Activity & Behavior Personality Traits

On the Personality & Marriage section of this site the statement was made to the effect that all relationships will encounter conflict. It is part of being human. How we experience conflict, react to it and move to solve it are instinctive. So we have some power and control in a conflict situation, at least some of the time. The following personality traits are keys to understanding the INTJ approach to conflict in relationships/marriage.

INTJ Conflict Reactions Personality Traits:

• The INTJ are challenged by conflict
• INTJ sees conflict as a chance for innovation and improvement
• INTJs will prefer an “autonomous” attempt at conflict resolution
• INTJ is likely involve others in the solution sparingly
• Eventually may see the conflict as a chance for personal growth
• INTJs will work hard to reach a logical, systems approach to solution

INTJ Conflict Resolution Activity Personality Traits

• Unless stressed, INTJ will be somewhat impersonal in their conflict resolution activity
• INTJ conflict resolution activity will clarify the issues and principles involved
• INTJ will attempt to consider all sides of the conflict in their conflict resolution activity
• Normally patient as all parties speak their minds toward resolution
• INTJ conflict resolution activity will naturally use pro and con, cause and affect solutions
• INTJ will embrace consensus and a win-win attitude

INTJ Likely Positive Solutions Will Be

• Will be logical and fair
• Innovative
• Likely very “creative”
• Systematic
• Results-focused

INTJ Conflict Resolution Activity-Improvement Opportunities (weaknesses)

• INTJ may ignore the impact of personal feelings upon others in the conflict resolution activity
• INTJ may not see how their in-command presence to conflict resolution activity may intimidate others
• INTJ may tend to argue and debate naturally as a part of the process, not seeing that this activity may “hurt” others
• INTJ will naturally ignore details
• INTJ will tend to control the conflict resolution activity
• INTJ decide too quickly
• The INTJ thought can be too complex and not stated concisely enough for others
• INTJs sometimes try to solve those things others just want them to listen to

There are more personality traits you can identify from searching other sections of this site in terms of how INTJ will prefer to recreate, prefer to make love, learn, parent and many other personality traits that will impact marriage and family relationships.

If you have taken the Myers Briggs test and are INTJ understand that others are not and that others may not share your natural personality traits and perhaps need you to give them more of who they are by modifying your “instinctive” behaviors from time to time in favor of their personality traits and instinctive behaviors. Likewise, from time to time they should modify theirs in favor of yours. The main idea behind knowledge of personality traits that are different is that it is natural and these differences need to be validated, valued and acknowledged. When this happens people simply get along better on many levels and that is priceless. Just allow the other person to be who they are!!

Interested in looking at another one of the 16 personality types? Go to the Personality & Marriage page or use the navigation bar on the left, pick a type at the bottom of the Personality & Marriage page and enjoy!

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