Marriage/Relationship Compatibility Test ISFJ

The personality type information discovered from the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) can be used, in a manner of speaking as a wonderful compatibility test of sorts.

The Myers-Briggs instrument itself is NOT a compatibility test. It is a personality preference indicator.

The information gleaned from knowledge of your personality type can be used to identify and actually create better love and relationship compatibility so I have used the term "compatibility test" to refer to using the "type" information in this fashion.

Compatibility is critical to relationship success as each of the 16 personality types will bring instinctively preferred behaviors, personality traits, to a marriage and/or family relationship.

If you know ahead of time what those preferred personality traits are you have the knowledge necessary to make a marriage last and flourish; actually, you have the type knowledge to make any relationship grow.

Here is the ISFJ way. You will see the many and varied personality traits that ISFJs naturally show as they relate to others. If you are an ISFJ let this self-knowledge help and guide you in your marriage and family life. If you are in relationship with an ISFJ allow the wonder of what you learn here to guide your understanding of and responses to how ISFJs behave. Allow for the difference!!

If you�re not sure of your MBTI type take the Myers Briggs test here. Then come back and go to the type page for your type and study the personality traits.

Myers-Briggs �Compatibility Test� Results-ISFJ Personality Traits

In marriage and relating to others ISFJs bring these personality traits:

The ISFJ is dependable and loyal, which can be a source of security and stability to a partner.
ISFJ is practical and committed to the relationship, dependable, security minded.
Are very traditional in all they do. If you are not an ISFJ�Don�t forget the anniversary, birthday, graduation�whatever!!! Not a good idea.
ISFJ will tend to be more a disciplinarian with children than some others, not as much as the ST however.
The ISFJ will bring a natural desire for cooperation to the relationship.
ISFJ will likely be the �worrier� in the relationship.
ISFJ will typically not seek to �control� the relationship.
ISFJ will Love you by doing practical thingsand by saying �I love you�, just don�t expect them to initiate the verbal expression.
Typically ISFJ does not want to engage with recreation and play unless identified work has been completed.
If attracted to an opposite personality type (happens a lot) ISFJ will move forward with the relationship planning to change them later. (into a version of themselves) Actually we are all pretty good at this.
ISFJ will be naturally less able to leave a relationship that is not good, their feeling/loyalty keep them many time longer than is healthy.
ISFJ will enjoy order in the home, furnishing, style and won�t appreciate frequent changes in these things.
The ISFJ will see sex as a necessary part of marriage, will have difficulty initiating it at times�.most times
The ISFJ will often be less willing for sexual experimentation as to position, place, etc.
The ISFJ will often be taken for granted and �used� in relationship, perhaps more than all other types.
Will tend to not talk about what is bothering them even when they need to speak up.

ISFJ Conflict Resolution Activity & Behavior Personality Traits

On the Personality & Marriage section of this site the statement was made that all relationships will encounter conflict. It is part of being human. How we experience conflict, react to it and move to solve it are instinctive. So we have some power and control and will INSTINCTIVELY and NATURALLY use our personality traits in a conflict resolution activity, at least some of the time. The following personality traits are keys to understanding the ISFJ approach to conflict in relationships/marriage.

ISFJ Conflict Reactions Personality Traits:

Instinctive reaction is distress regarding confronting the conflict
Immediately sense how difficult this may be for others
Likely to try and negotiate a �win-win� situation.
The win-win attempt will likely be practical, fair, reached through consensus

ISFJ Conflict Resolution Activity Personality Traits

Unless stressed, ISFJ will be respectful as they work for solution
Will keep �harmony� in mind at all times
Unless stressed, the ISFJ will not �criticize� during resolution attempts
Normally patient as all parties speak their minds toward resolution

ISFJ Likely Positive Solutions In Conflict Resouliton Activity

Realistic, in-the now
Harmonious to all parties
Practical and pragmatic
Feasible
Well-organized
Results-focused

ISFJ Conflict Resolution Activity-Improvement Opportunities (weaknesses)

ISFJ will probably get their feelings hurt during the process
Tendency to direct, order and manipulate
Will not view the alternatives, the options as quickly as others, especially if they are big picture oriented
May unilaterally decide upon a solution and run the risk of alienating others, giving in to the drive for reestablishing harmony
Will most likely ignore how they feel
ISFJ questions will often sound like statements instead
For harmony sake, the ISFJ may move too quickly toward resolution and regret it later

There are more ISFJ personality traits you can identify from searching other sections of this site in terms of how the ISFJ will prefer to recreate, make love, parent, learn and many other personality traits that will impact marriage and family relationships.

If you have taken the Myers Briggs test and are ISFJ understand that others are not and that others will not understand all your personality traits as you exhibit them others may need you to give them more of who they are by modifying your �instinctive� behaviors from time to time in favor of their instinctive behaviors and personality traits. Likewise, from time to time they should modify theirs in favor of yours. The main idea behind knowledge of personality traits that are different is that it is natural and these differences need to be validated, valued and acknowledged. When this happens people simply get along better on many levels and that is priceless.

Interested in looking at another one of the 16 personality types? Go to the Personality & Marriage page or use the navigation bar on the left, pick a type at the bottom of the Personality & Marriage page and enjoy!

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