The Man of INTJ Wisdom Just Keeps Getting Smarter…So Does The ISFJ Woman Also!!

This weekend was just one more opportunity for me to see how wise my Dad who is INTJ keeps getting. I was with Mom and Dad to celebrate my 59th birthday; well that is how it began, but as I asked Pop a few questions and really listened I realized that he is INTJ!!

It was only this year that Pop took the Myers-Briggs to find out! You see I can think back to my childhood and my upbringing and he is soooooo INTJ. I mean after each “life experience”, oh I mean maybe getting dumped by a girl, not making a team sport, making a team sport, grades…..etc, just about anything there was always the “what did you learn?” question….and he would probe. He was seeing for me the logical concepts he wanted for me and that he wanted me to get from life!

Oh, he also stopped using very mild “corporal” punishment when I reached 8yrs old…he stopped by design at that age as he believes that “fear” as a motivator begins at age 8 to mean very much less and is indeed negative….better to motivate by desire at that age and from then on out….so INTJ!!

Taking the time to reflect upon my Dad’s nature (which by the way is something my type INFJ must do if we are to understand anything) gave me an insight that could only have happened with knowledge of Myers-Briggs personality. I’m thankful for that.

My Dad is 82 yrs old and as I write this is getting ready for heart surgery next week in Lansing, MI. That may be why I’m thinking so reflectively abut him.

Now my ruminations as an INFJ will be pretty different than…oh let’s say my wife….who is ISTJ. Her thoughts about my Dad or her Dad will be details remembered that were logical or were not logical. She would probably see how precisely she was raised with this technique or the other. She will literally remember the detailed facts in a logical sequence where the INFJs of the world will actually “see” the event in our minds if you will.

As a further reflection of my Dad’s type and well, my Mother’s type which is ISFJ the memories come flooding back of course; but, Mom was exquisitely ISFJ…and I’m thankful for that. Although at the time she and I fought like cats and dogs.

See Mom wanted to order and dare I say it “control” just about every detail of my life. Well what was happening then, I know and see now is that the dominant Sensor (ISFJ) was conflicting with the dominant Intuit (INFJ) all over the place!

I did not desire to have any “details” of my life taken care of by my Mom partially because I could not tell anyone at that time what the “details” of my life were! Or she could, things like clothes, food, protection, health, love, well-being, education, you know that kind of stuff.

Well God bless my Mother, as I see how blessed I was because as the ISFJ she “felt” for my welfare and did naturally (unless restrained) move foreword in taking care and arranging for all the details of my life. Well even though I argued with her thinking I was being interfered with and being forced to see things that did not matter much to me at the time (read here just about any detail of a kid’s life you can think of) I would usually end up allowing her to do it all.

Well now I got so used to letting her do everything that when she did not do something there was a problem. In other words, I took my Mother so much for granted.

Now, I’ve made amends since but you must understand dear reader that the INFJ is not evil just a dominant intuit who instinctively and naturally has natural difficulty operating in the realm of the senses.

My ISFJ Mother, or any other ISFJ person get taken for granted my others more than any of the remaining 15 personality types…..hands down!

My point with this article is that with knowledge of Myers-Briggs personality type wonderfully accurate predictions can be made as to the behaviors to expect from someone who is of a certain type.

When we know what to expect from someone everything related to that person can be better understood; and, communication perhaps above all things, can be optimized.

What a wonderful duo my Mom and Dad are and were then; I was just too young and ignorant of how things work to appreciate the beautiful interplay of their personality types and how that made my life then and now really good.

So what is your type? What’s the type of your wife, husband, children, boss, mother, father, and sibling? Why not figure that out so that every moment of you life with them can be potentially made better by releasing the awesome power of your personality type the Myers-Briggs Way?!

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