Parenting Skill and the ISTJ Child!

If your child is ISTJ, Introverted with Sensing, Thinking and Judging, parenting skill can be improved by understanding that these ISTJ young ones are typically very serious kids. And we will get into that in just a moment.

Firstly understand that this page is devoted to helping you as a loving parent or guardian better understand how to use your instinctive nature to improve your parenting skill by nurturing your child.

Your nature and your child’s nature is your personality type and your child’s type as discovered through the Myers Briggs Test. You may or may not be ISTJ; but, if your child is ISTJ than this page can guide you in developing outstanding parenting skill as you raise and interact with your ISTJ child.

You’ll be introduced to several key personality characteristics of the ISTJ child and you’ll be given some suggestions as to things to do that will improve parenting skill and help nurture you ISTJ child all through life.

We’ll assume that you know your personality type and that your child is ISTJ…here we go!!

Some Characteristics of the ISTJ Child-Some Behaviors to Look For

Even at very young ages(3-4) ISTJ kids can be very serious

The ISTJ child may connect with only one parent for a long time

Young ISTJs may not smile with strangers

Being a dominant sensor, the ISTJ child can be very aware of their bodies need for sleep and food…the senses of the body

The ISTJ child will probably thrive with a schedule, and be upset when off schedule

The ISTJ child will feel secure in a home environment and very insecure when not in it

It can take some time for the ISTJ child to get used to new surroundings…so frequent moves can unsettle the ISTJ child

All kids cry, but you may see the ISTJ child crying less than other types

As they grow they will take their time getting involved with “social” activities….they don’t like being rushed/pushed into social events

Don’t be surprised if your child is quiet and enjoys being alone and/or gets upset if pushed into “outside” activities…remember the ISTJ is an introvert

K-12 education is almost custom made for the ISTJ child to the extent that it embraces structure, order, specifics, routine, not a great deal of change

The ISTJ child enjoys studying one thing at a time…the more “hands on” the better

The greater the “theory” in the classroom the less the ISTJ child will like the subject

Your ISTJ is probably very honest and will expect others to be also and may get upset with those they think are not

The ISTJ child in adolescence may have a tendency to correct those around them without much tact….this can lead to difficulties with peers who may not share the sensing/thinking (ST) core personality

the ISTJ child can become very literal and very direct….as a parent the more vague and figurative you are the more irritated the child may become

In adolescence the ISTJ will desire their space and their independence perhaps more than others so be ready for that

The ISTJ will develop friends but they may not have a “network” of friends being more comfortable with a “best friend” or a smaller circle of friends

The ISTJ adolescent will likely not approve of wrong or questionable behavior, parents typically like that…..will tend to see things in black and white, will be skeptical of new things/ideas

They are typically more mature and responsible in their behavior than others

They may focus on part-time jobs during school as earning a living is the responsible thing to do

Regardless of Your Type Mom and Dad-Here Are Some Things You Can Do to Nurture the ISTJ Child and Improve Parenting Skill

Give them some idea of what is coming, some advance warning

As they grow giving them more responsibility is positive and helps their self-image

Try to be on time with them, give clear, specific instructions…the details if you will; be logical as you explain things and speak to them

Don’t be in a hurry to move or introduce your child to new things to quickly…they need time on task more than others…it is good for them

Give them projects to accomplish as they grow older…and let them do it, listen without interruptions as they explain what they are doing, have done or are about to do

Remember they are masters of the “inner world of reality” give them the time they need to think through things, give them quiet time without interruption

Give them non-fiction reading, encyclopedias, how-to books and watch them devour

Make your instructions to them clear and as precise as possible

Don’t rush them into social activities when the seem hesitant, they will engage when they are ready
Try to give them time to adjust to new things of all sorts…if things “change” too quickly it disrupts and hurts them
Be honest with them, mean what you say, follow through with them

In conclusion Mom or Dad, if you are ISTJ than most of the above seemed pretty natural; but, if you are not a Sensing Thinker (ST) than maybe the above can better aid you as you develop you parenting skill.

Should you desire to check on another personality type just link below and return to the main Parenting page and find another type, link on it, and enjoy! Return from Parenting Skill ISTJ to Personality and Parenting